John W. Anderson has stood by his mother, wife, sister, and his mom’s closest friend as they battled breast cancer. His new book, Stand by Her: A Breast Cancer Guide for Men, published in time for National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, details these experience, and all that he learned by being on the frontlines of this battle with four of the most important women in his life.

From when to stay quiet, shave your head, or grab a beer with a buddy to get out of what he dubs “Cancerland,” Anderson spoke to WebMD about how men can help the women they love face breast cancer.
Here’s what he had to say:
WebMd article on Stand by Her