It may have happened right after she was diagnosed, or maybe after her surgery, or perhaps during her chemo. But for most men, the real deep blue moment happens some time in the later stages of chemo or when her radiation treatments begin. The deep blue sea is where your deepest fears, emotions, and feelings are trying to swallow you, to drag you into a vast emptiness of sadness, silence, and isolation.

You are alone, abandoned, lost. It’s everywhere—in everything you do, touch, feel, smell, and think. It wants to destroy you, your loved one, your family, and your friends. It wants your job, your future, everything you have ever held dear. You are inside that deep blue sea, and you have no idea how you will get out. You’ve been swallowed, whole, by a perfect storm of unhappiness, mental pain, and deep emotional suffering. You, my friend, have been dumped overboard without a life preserver, without a paddle, and with heavy psychological weights tied tight around your ankles. You are in the Deep Blue Sea of Sadness.