Laura Landro, Wall Street Journal’s “Informed Patient” columnist, has selected STAND BY HER as one of 2009’s best health books, and a recommended read for the New Year. See Wall Street Journal article
Here’s an excerpt:
Consumers flock online for 24/7 health information, from the latest research on rare diseases to mothers’ groups tweeting advice on colicky babies. But when it comes to reliable, easy-to-understand information on a wide range of medical, health and fitness issues, a number of new books belong in any informed patient’s library—and as a bonus, some use Web sites to post the latest updates and build communities.
“Stand by Her” by John W. Anderson
With a mother, sister and wife diagnosed with breast cancer, Mr. Anderson found little in all the books and Web sites about the disease to help men cope; he uses his own experience to help men become supportive care givers while dealing with their own fears and emotions about a loved one with breast cancer. He walks men through all the physical and emotional challenges women will face during treatment, and the logistics of hospitals, surgery and chemotherapy. There is also frank discussion of the strains on marriage and intimacy, and how to rebuild what may be lost in the battle and prepare for the future. Standbyher.org offers a forum where men can ask questions and share experiences and coping tips.
John W. Anderson has stood by his mother, wife, sister, and his mom’s closest friend as they battled breast cancer. His new book, Stand by Her: A Breast Cancer Guide for Men, published in time for National Breast Cancer Awareness Month, details these experience, and all that he learned by being on the frontlines of this battle with four of the most important women in his life.
From when to stay quiet, shave your head, or grab a beer with a buddy to get out of what he dubs “Cancerland,” Anderson spoke to WebMD about how men can help the women they love face breast cancer.
Here’s what he had to say:
WebMd article on Stand by Her
The people of Costa Rica have a saying that they’ve trademarked as their national slogan pura vida, the literal translation being ‘‘pure life.’’ But the real meaning of the phrase, according to the Costa Ricans, is that pura vida is a command to live life, every day,‘‘full of life.’’
So get out into that great, big world and live life to its fullest—today, tomorrow, this week, next week, next month, next year, and for the rest of your and her days. And please share your experiences here, or in the forum on how you are living your own personal pura vida.